Beauty within is…well, difficult to define. It is an attainable and elusive quality. Professional and writers have pursued efforts to capture it.
My reason for considering this quality is inspired by this Max De Pree quote:
“We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing and inclusion.”
This seems central to our work as music therapists – providing space for our clients to grow. It is also core to our development as therapist. The skills and experience you bring to a session as a freshly minted MT-BC are deepened as you gain more experiences, gather more information, diversify your experiences.
In “The Single Woman: Life, Love and a Dash of Sass” Mandy Hale stated: “There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others.” BEFORE making life beautiful for others, we need to find it within ourselves.
Far from addressing it once and it’s fixed, finding beauty in ourselves is an ongoing process. In some ways, our work and our life may help us better find our inner beauty.
We live in a world where our exterior first impression makes a difference. As we age, we likely experience may changes to the physical body. Some our natural while others are the result of injury or illness.
Let’s just consider wrinkles. In her book “The Wisdom of Your Face” and on her blog, Jean Haner explores what wrinkles mean, which wrinkles you DO want to have and the types of wrinkles that are warning signs. Where ever we are on this wrinkle journey, there are lessons to learn.
Beauty within our clients
Not all clients/people are easy to “like”. Some require time to see the inner beauty. Those in the later stages of life with dementia can be among them. These words from Elizabeth Kubler-Ross speak volumes to what we may see: “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”
At those times a person living with dementia connects in and around the music, we may glimpse a bit of the true person who still exists within. Their “light” is revealed for that time.
Depending on our clientele or our life situations, some words may speak more to our situation. In the comments below, share the words that speak to inner beauty in your work.